Key terms:

  • Single-filled communication
  • Multi-filtered communication
  • Character friendship
  • Prudential value
  • Secret view
  • Mirror view
  • Drawing view
  • Second selves and the extended mind thesis: extended self onto friends

Against legitimacy and value of online friendships

  • Cocking & Matthews
    • Not possible to have real friends online
    • It is possible for one to have a genuine friend in an online situation
    • Impossible to represent yourself in every dimension
    • Real world cannot be so packaged into presentations
  • McFall
    • Online friendship cannot achieve the status of Aristotle’s character friendship
    • Character friends must live together in close proximity to maintain friendship

Agree to disagree

  • Munn
    • Friendship can develop in either the physical world or the immersive visual world
    • Character friendship cannot be achieved in the visual world
  • Johnny Soraker
    • Virtual friendship is better than no friendship at all
    • Offline relationships cannot be replaced by virtual friendships

For legitimacy and value of online friendships

  • Briggle
    • Online friends become more real than offline friends because of their distance
    • Writing letters
  • Soraj Hongladoram
    • Offline friendships can be more powerful because it relies on the imagination
    • Our friends change who we are, just as change who they are at the same time

“Be your selves” – Derek Thompson

  • Express sides of yourself that social norms discourage in the real world
  • The internet and social media don’t create new personalities
  • The internet requires us to cater to the prejudices of strangers. The mere knowledge that we are being observed changes what we say
  • Different platforms, each was created with specific affordances the big four social media platforms
    • Facebook
    • Instagram
    • Snapchat
    • Twitter

Different selves

  • A self is a collection of relatively stable attributes and feelings about these attributes

Online selves

  • The concept of who we are online is fairly new
    • Only as old as social media
    • Still growing and changing
  • The concept is similar to our different offline selves in our everyday lives
  • All these different selves make up who you are

The problem with online selves

  • People may have accounts on different platforms as well as several accounts on one platform
    • Regular account vs. private account
  • The problem with our online selves is that it is a curated version of us
  • We can hide behind our keyboards
  • No perfect version of yourself online
  • No filter

Small vs. Large audiences

  • Our audience is our identity
  • We tailor our performance according to our audience
  • Goffman’s self-presentation theory
    • Front-stage self
    • Back-stage self

Account vs. account

  • People create private second accounts intended for a smaller audience
  • More genuine and unconcerned about presentation; depending on the context

For better or for worse

  • New platforms can reveal certain parts of individuals that have remained dormant
    • Can be a great place for introverts to open up
  • Some people may appear to have a different personality
    • Can be intentional or unintentional

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